Dear donors, I am a midwife who has specialized in disaster relief nursing. I am helping mothers give birth here in Norway, teaching “reproductive health during disasters” and in addition I am a delegate in the Emergency Response Units roster (Norwegian Red Cross). Providing relief in acute disaster areas is significant, but the silent disaster, such as Syria, worries me. The Media’s attention is not there and that is why it is difficult to get donors to cover even the minimum needs of the displaced people. Disasters can affect all human beings. However they are not neutral in the way they impact people. Young women and girls are often excluded from needs assessments and absent of any data collection. Studies from recent disasters have found that women, girls and boys are 14 times more likely to die in a disaster than men. Women and children also live in fear of kidnap, rape and sham marriages in the refugee camp meant to keep them safe. They die too often in pregnancy or childbirth. Good breastfeeding support during emergencies would also have saved lives.